This year, I’m going to do this, this year I’m going to do that, this year I’m going to make some real money!  Blah, Blah, Blah! That’s how it starts. Every year, you resolve to be different. The problem with resolutions though, is that they are tradition and command no real commitment!! They are often misdirected & they seldom involve any change of the one  important thing… and that’s YOU!!

 Now there’s nothing wrong with making resolutions but we must remember we have to create an action plan that will make your resolve stronger. I don’t understand how people think just by going into a new year that everything will change when they still have the same tired, broke busted and disgusted mentality! Here are  3  resolutions to remember in 2010 that will help you achieve the goals that most people only dream about.

Resolution 1: I WILL “be” the change that I seek

You want the change that Obama promised you? The truth is that you have to create it. And that begins with changing your frame of mind. Everything visible manifests first in the invisible. The intangible makes the tangible.

 Resolution 2: I WILL “stop” treating people like transactions

 The worst thing you can do is to treat people like transactions. Do you ever wonder why people don’t seem to respond to your phone calls or emails? Most likely it’s because you only contact them when you need something. No one wants to be a part of a single sided relationship.

 Resolution 3: I WILL “give” value first

 Make it a point to help someone else! But here’s the kicker…don’t ask for anything in return. Think I’m crazy? There is something called the law of reciprocation that begins to work in your favor. Having a mindset like this will help you gain valuable allies that are the key to your success.

 Ok so now that you have the mindset covered, we can work on building your network!

 5 Secrets to building a Spartans type network

1.      Be a Friend- Jeffrey Gitomer says it best in his quote “All things being created equal people want to do business with their friends.” Instead of buiding more customers build more friends and watch your business sky rocket!

2.      Be Strategic- Do your research and create a plan. Find out things like what they are passionate about and give them ideas, resources you’re your connections if it will help them fulfill it.

3.      Be Patient- Wise people know that it takes time to establish trust. You have to be honest and consistent for a while… sometimes 6 months or even a year to get most influential people to trust you.

4.      Add Value First- Find ways to solve problems for people in your network. Be the problem solver and overtime you will become a connection that your colleagues can’t afford not to know.

5.      Follow up- The fortune is in the follow up. Be consistent and focus on building a long lasting friendship and overtime you will reap big rewards.

 Three Advantages of Building Your Network Like this:

• Private Information- this is key in most business transactions. Having a connection on the inside can only help you get to your goal faster.
• Access to Diverse Skill Sets- People you network with can bring a variety of         knowledge and information to the table. It’s like a Thanksgiving buffet of information!
• Access to Power- The people you have access to will open doors you didn’t even know existed!

This blog is my present to you for 2010 to read this meditate on this for the rest of the year and really try to internalize this message! I guarantee you will thank me later.

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This is the story of Dick & Rick Hoyt, the most inspirational father and son team to race in an Ironman. 

True Story …

A son says to his father: ‘Dad, would you be willingly to run a marathon with me?’

The father, despite his age and a heart disease, says ‘YES’.

And they run that marathon, together.

The son asks: ‘Dad, can you run another marathon with me?’ Again father says ‘YES’.

One day the son asks his father: ‘Dad, would please do the Iron Man with me?’

Now just in case you wouldn’t know, ‘The Iron Man’ is the toughest triatlon in existance; 4km swimming, then 180 km by bike, and finaly another 42 km running, in one stroke

Again father says ‘YES’

Click on the link above and I know it will touch your heart.

The Reason I chose to post this  inspirational video today was because I want people who visit this blog even if its for 1 minute to be encouraged that you can do anything you put your mind to. They say the acronym for fear is finding reasons and excuses. How many of you today found a reason why you couldn’t do something? You don’t have to admit it. Just stop playing with IT!!! When I say ”IT” I mean your goals, dreams and purpose. We were all put here to solve a problem and we all get 86,400 seconds to do it each day. Are you spending your seconds to leave a legacy? Or are you just wasting time? Don’t let another day go by and you not do something to change somebody’s life.

If this article inspires you please be so kind and leave a comment. Thank you in advance.

It seems so simple but I’m still not convinced that most people understand the power of this statement. How many times have you heard someone say “I don’t care”?

I have a nephew who just turned 16 years old and it seems like this is his favorite thing to say to his mother, grand parents, or any other adult that you would think respect would automatically be given.

The second day at his new high school he got suspended for fighting another young boy because he didn’t like the way he was looking at him. When his principal asked him how he thought his recent performance would affect his grades, he looked away, shrugged his shoulders and said boldly, “I don’t care!” Whenever he’s getting in trouble (which seems like every second of the day) his response to everybody but his friends or myself is “I DON’T CARE!”

When I picked him up from school that day, I said “Tyler, what’s going on? Tell me your side of the story and what really happened.” Now most people upon hearing this news would have immediately began with a lengthy discourse and started the punishment process, but I decided to take different approach because I know there is always two sides to every story. He readily started to open up about the civil conflict and finish every line with “You feel me bro?” Now why do you think his response to me, his uncle, was different then that of most other adults? Because I seeked first to understand then, to be understood. I listened to what he cared about first and followed with, “I can understand where your coming from and I can see how that would make you feel.” Once he knew that I CARED about him, that opened the door to allow him to be receptive of new information as to how this conflict could have been avoided and not just take my advice as a grain of salt. Because we have developed this bond, his response is usually,”Yea.. Your right. I’ll think before I act the next time.”

Now if this statement (People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care) is true how can you apply this to your networkmarketing business? When your introduced to a Multi Level Marketing company and your sitting there at the presentation or your giving one to a person, they have to know that you care about them? That your achieving there goals more than you just getting a commission check. That you want to help them move from the mindset of I wish I could do, to, I know I can.

In addition to helping people change their psychological process to the positive, it is still the duty of every networker to know clearly your inventory, your product, the mechanics and possess the negotiating skills to be a success in network marketing. Most importantly, without a genuine love for people… you can forget it.

Rob Coats,

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